I am terribly fascinated by all the hype that the there is a left bias in Hollywood and the main stream media. Perhaps, I have spent too much time reading Manufacturing Consent, but it seems to me that there is a corporate agenda at work which is more right than left.
We almost never go to the movies, choosing more often to watch older movies and shows (particularly British mystery shows as they are more cerebral and less sensational) once they have gotten to some of the streaming services, but some extended family members wanted to go. It had been so long that I had forgotten why I don't like going, but then the full ten minutes of commercials happened. They were loud and very conformist in the sense that they encouraged you to go to more movies presumably so you would be able to talk about them with your friends and fit in. They also seemed over the top in terms of the shock and action value presumably so you think you deserve more excitement than your boring life and strive to consume more.
After the ten minutes, it was safe right? Not exactly. I love that the security guard main character has such a magical life. To me it is synonymous with the rich inner life of security guards I know fueled by the freedom often to read on the job and discuss important topics with peers (they need to be watchful, but aren't busy the way many jobs are). Even with the extraordinary magic and the responsibility that went with it, the writers told us his life was less than par because he didn't have a job requiring college. There was the whole conflict with the son over college as well as the awful ending where his next step was to get a degree and become a teacher. Do the writers know how many degreed, in-debt and unemployed teachers there are in Buffalo that end up working as aides or nannies if they are lucky.
The message is clear and multifaceted. You are only worth something if you have the capacity to consume at high levels. You aren't a real human adult without a degree is another message even though it often comes with high debt loads and doesn't guarantee a better job. It is permitted nowadays and expected to look down on those in certain kinds of professions despite the major structural problems with the huge disparity of wealth in the U.S. One's whole value is determined in one's ability to please those that hire people. This wouldn't be unfair if all those that worked hard received just income and opportunity as occurred more often fifty or sixty years ago. The message is you can control what happens to you and that the system is fair and that it is one's own fault if you don't make it. Don't question the corporate system, it is fair!!!
My husband's job as a security guard allows him much freedom in terms of how his mental time is occupied and the low levels of stress allow him to concentrate on our family life more fully as well as managing our home which is partially a business as it includes a rental unit. Still, there are people in our lives that look down on us for our simple life despite its necessity for my health and its better situation for our kids. These same people speak highly of others who have high level fancy careers despite, in some cases, having situations that are fundamentally complicated by the need for more income to consume more. How come no one looks down on the two high earners with their kids in daycare or with a nanny? Once you have one high earner, is it fair to the kids to leave them most of the day to chase more money even if one "loves" their job or can "do more" for them. I am not sure I, myself, think it is wrong, but it is irritating that fewer people question it than the number of people who look down on security guards (or wait staff, or cashiers, or you get the idea).
I wish people would understand that the rich people are laughing all the way to the bank and that it isn't the poor people who are to blame. The more people away from home in the workforce the more wages get bid down. It is supply and demand. Since there is only so much paid work out there, few people question the morality of working when you don't need to just to be socially acceptable, rather news and movies have convinced most of us that it is those poor people who aren't working hard enough are the problem rather than look up and see how much has been hoarded outside our reach. It is incredibly stupid when the bottom 90% of us families only have 25% of the wealth. Hollywood is telling us to better ourselves to compete like heck for that 25% and not to look up at the top 10% percent of people. We don't have to try communism, there are many mechanisms that can force our form of capitalism to reward hard work with more resources without giving some people so many that the rest of the people worry about the basics.
I am not sure I am going to go to another movie theater for a while. I just don't need Hollywood to tell me our lives aren't good enough!
We are homeschoolers in Buffalo NY, a friendly and great city. This blog starts one year after we began homeschooling and we plan to frequently document our homeschooling experiences going foward highlighting the joys and challenges we face. Our goal is to provide a self-paced, if not customized, education using our city environment as a classroom.
Thursday, March 19, 2015
Thursday, March 5, 2015
Not in Buffalo: Looking Globalization in the Face
After our great experience last year
with my friend in a different part of Guatemala, we decided to go to
Antigua to explore more Mayan culture and, of course, some Spanish
colonial history. Aside from the rich educational experience, our second reason for the trip was affordability. Try going to a vacation spot in the U.S. for the same amount for the same amount of time. I haven't done too much research, but it seems impossible. As it is, we can afford a vacation due to being carless.
With my fibromyalgia, my regular days are several hours to get through the stiffness to get going, taking care of my fibro by swimming and stretching, cooking lunch and dinner together so I only need to cook once and simply microwave dinner plates in the evening, take the kids to activities on the bus, and hit the couch immediately upon coming home. When I go to the bathroom, I move a load of laundry, but most often rely on Tom and the kids to put it away. I rely on Tom and the kids to clean outside of the kitchen and cooking related tasks. That is my life most days. It is fine for me, but leaves little energy for other things including writing these posts.
Of course, in Guatemala, the cleaning comes with the place and it costs very little to pay the person to cook a meal (lunch and dinner together :o) like at home). This frees up my energy for more posts and more educational site-seeing. While it is still slow travel, doing only one or two activities a day most days, I can manage them much better.
However, when discussing this recently a relative sort of sneered, particularly when I mentioned that I knew several people who were able to be home with their kids with house help when they were small and they could stretch their various small but remote incomes (some online work, some child support, some investment income) in cheaper countries like Guatemala. The person who sneered, along with many other Americans, shops at Walmart (they are all pretty bad, but Walmart is the worst given its level of profits) and many other large stores who take advantage of even cheaper overseas labor than house help in Guatemala. No one in the United States can escape it. Even L.L.Bean makes items overseas (although at least they take responsibility for their products more than other stores). Most Americans are taking advantage of cheap labor, mostly because there isn't a choice. Globalization cannot be fought on the individual level. I have researched trying to and it can be done on small fronts, but not large. The people with the power, who control the government, need to address it.
Regardless, the hypocrisy is infuriating. When you hire house help, you can make a point to pay the higher end of the wage range for the area and position. You can be generally aware of the prices they need to pay for items for themselves. You can make sure they eat some of the meals they make for you. You can be flexible about their work hours to take care of family commitments. You can recommend them for further positions if they like. You get the idea. When you shop in the U.S. for items, most of which are made overseas, you have no idea how the people are treated and because you don't see them you don't even have to think about them or about globalization.
Hopefully, my kids will think about it and understand it as they progress through their lives. They are experiencing differences in prices and wealth first hand in Guatemala. They look our part-time housekeeper in the face and and have to face it in a more real way. I am not sure most adults have such a perspective on globalization and our economic system. Schools certainly don't teach it well. This is mainly because they don't teach economics well. Noam Chomsky frequently says "Adam Smith who you are supposed to worship, but not read". Schools have spun the economic message far away from the classical texts. I can't help but think this is on purpose. While I love teachers and they are very knowledgeable, few have a grasp of macroeconomics. It doesn't appear to be taught in teaching colleges. When it is covered it is covered in a separate course rather than holistically interwoven throughout history. History is kept separate focusing on names, places, and dates. Even in a college macroeconomic course, more emphasis is on mathematical models than broad conceptual differences which, sometimes, can't be quantified easily.
Only time will tell if the concepts are sinking in with the kids, but I would like to think that living it for a month will give them a perspective.
With my fibromyalgia, my regular days are several hours to get through the stiffness to get going, taking care of my fibro by swimming and stretching, cooking lunch and dinner together so I only need to cook once and simply microwave dinner plates in the evening, take the kids to activities on the bus, and hit the couch immediately upon coming home. When I go to the bathroom, I move a load of laundry, but most often rely on Tom and the kids to put it away. I rely on Tom and the kids to clean outside of the kitchen and cooking related tasks. That is my life most days. It is fine for me, but leaves little energy for other things including writing these posts.
Of course, in Guatemala, the cleaning comes with the place and it costs very little to pay the person to cook a meal (lunch and dinner together :o) like at home). This frees up my energy for more posts and more educational site-seeing. While it is still slow travel, doing only one or two activities a day most days, I can manage them much better.
However, when discussing this recently a relative sort of sneered, particularly when I mentioned that I knew several people who were able to be home with their kids with house help when they were small and they could stretch their various small but remote incomes (some online work, some child support, some investment income) in cheaper countries like Guatemala. The person who sneered, along with many other Americans, shops at Walmart (they are all pretty bad, but Walmart is the worst given its level of profits) and many other large stores who take advantage of even cheaper overseas labor than house help in Guatemala. No one in the United States can escape it. Even L.L.Bean makes items overseas (although at least they take responsibility for their products more than other stores). Most Americans are taking advantage of cheap labor, mostly because there isn't a choice. Globalization cannot be fought on the individual level. I have researched trying to and it can be done on small fronts, but not large. The people with the power, who control the government, need to address it.
Regardless, the hypocrisy is infuriating. When you hire house help, you can make a point to pay the higher end of the wage range for the area and position. You can be generally aware of the prices they need to pay for items for themselves. You can make sure they eat some of the meals they make for you. You can be flexible about their work hours to take care of family commitments. You can recommend them for further positions if they like. You get the idea. When you shop in the U.S. for items, most of which are made overseas, you have no idea how the people are treated and because you don't see them you don't even have to think about them or about globalization.
Hopefully, my kids will think about it and understand it as they progress through their lives. They are experiencing differences in prices and wealth first hand in Guatemala. They look our part-time housekeeper in the face and and have to face it in a more real way. I am not sure most adults have such a perspective on globalization and our economic system. Schools certainly don't teach it well. This is mainly because they don't teach economics well. Noam Chomsky frequently says "Adam Smith who you are supposed to worship, but not read". Schools have spun the economic message far away from the classical texts. I can't help but think this is on purpose. While I love teachers and they are very knowledgeable, few have a grasp of macroeconomics. It doesn't appear to be taught in teaching colleges. When it is covered it is covered in a separate course rather than holistically interwoven throughout history. History is kept separate focusing on names, places, and dates. Even in a college macroeconomic course, more emphasis is on mathematical models than broad conceptual differences which, sometimes, can't be quantified easily.
Only time will tell if the concepts are sinking in with the kids, but I would like to think that living it for a month will give them a perspective.
Tuesday, March 3, 2015
Daytime Curfew? In Buffalo?
Update:
I found out this from my Council person:
Thank you for expressing your concerns, I agree there are a number of issues that would need to be worked out for this to go forward. The daytime curfew ordinance is still in discussion phase and there will be a public meeting next Monday, March 9 from 6pm-8pm at the Edward Saunders Community Center at 2777 Bailey Avenue to discuss the ordinance. I encourage you to attend to express your concerns and hear from other residents.
This morning there I came across the news story:
I found out this from my Council person:
Thank you for expressing your concerns, I agree there are a number of issues that would need to be worked out for this to go forward. The daytime curfew ordinance is still in discussion phase and there will be a public meeting next Monday, March 9 from 6pm-8pm at the Edward Saunders Community Center at 2777 Bailey Avenue to discuss the ordinance. I encourage you to attend to express your concerns and hear from other residents.
This morning there I came across the news story:
Officials discuss merits of daytime curfew
I am very troubled by this. First of all, I have immediate concerns that when I am out and about with my kids, 7 and 8, that I will be required to produce my IHIP compliance letters showing that it is OK that they are not in school because they are homeschooled. This reminds me of headlines out of Arizona some time ago that people could be stopped and asked to produce proof of citizenship. I am sure if I lived there, I would always be in some kind of trouble since I routinely walk out of the house with only house keys and a bus pass. Ironically, in Arizona, their homeschool laws are among the most free of all the states. Regardless, I can't help but think that Buffalo should not consider any measures that would remind someone of the proof of citizenship sorts of requirements in Arizona. It isn't who we are. A daytime curfew is a terrible idea. There may be an exception for kids who are with parents (possibly assuming they are on the way to a doctor's appointment or something), but what about homeschooled teenagers who are out in the world learning rather than being cooped up in school? Will they be harassed by the police on their way to a class at a museum or work at a family business? I talk to a great many interesting and seemingly responsible teenagers on the bus all the time going to activities or their parents' work.
The other thing that is troubling is the message we are giving to students. At every turn our society tells teenagers they are not to be trusted. Perhaps that is why some mistrust adults and don't feel like they need to go to school if enrolled in school (obviously being homeschooled is better in my view). They know that they are being told what to do and what to think rather than beginning to take on real responsibility. There are already night curfews. It isn't great to be out after dark for anyone, but there is a special ordinance for teenagers essentially criminalizing them for more items than corresponding adults. Once they reach adulthood we tell them they are still can't be trusted to have beer until they are 21. Then we wonder why our teenagers are a problem. I can't help but think we are scapegoating them for the problems in society knowing that we can only restrict adult behavior so much. Sometimes, it even seems that the restrictions have replaced those formerly placed on minorities before civil rights and other measures. Perhaps we allow the questioning of teenagers during certain hours to indirectly permit the questioning of minority individuals in the process. African Americans age so well, I am not sure I can tell the difference at times between a 16 year old black teenage or a 19 year old black man. Won't the police approach the 19 year old too? Don't forget that most of the city is minority. I hope people will see the curfew for what it may become.
Am I the only one troubled by this?
Thursday, February 26, 2015
Not in Buffalo: How many times can I say "no, gracias"?
When we spent any amount of time in central park in Antigua, Guatemala, I continuously needed to say "no, gracias" to the very numerous products and services being offered. Americans are not used to being approached and often are either offended or nervous. I felt bad saying no so often, of course. Many of the items were total bargains, like necklaces or beautiful pieces of fabric for a dollar, but when you don't need something, you don't need it.
The experience made the family think, however. We don't have commercial tv in the living room and no cable, so most ads we see are limited to online and billboards. We have escaped the repetitious constant attempt to get us to want things we don't need. Corporations get away with repeating messages with little effort or personal contact creating a sort of one-sided cultural dialogue. In Antigua, where there are relatively few big box establishments and certainly not the large suburban type with big parking lots. Small businesses and private individuals on the street rely on personal contact and expect some haggling over price. This makes most Americans uncomfortable, but isn't it more authentic? Isn't it more of a free market?
Anyone who wants to sell must have the guts to approach you and ask you to buy. In return, of course, you should give an answer, even if it is almost always, "no, gracias". There are also the businesses that can't exist in our corporate controlled environment. We saw someone selling cigarettes one at a time, not much different than the odd person buying one off someone at a bus stop at home, but certainly, the regulations are set up to prevent an individual from carrying out such as a business in a more ongoing manner in the United States.
I am sure we haven't thought about the implications of all the differences, but clearly our trip has prompted more and more thinking about economics and marketing. I think most Americans, and other relatively affluent Westerners, would benefit from embracing such travel experience rather than succumbing to fear.
The experience made the family think, however. We don't have commercial tv in the living room and no cable, so most ads we see are limited to online and billboards. We have escaped the repetitious constant attempt to get us to want things we don't need. Corporations get away with repeating messages with little effort or personal contact creating a sort of one-sided cultural dialogue. In Antigua, where there are relatively few big box establishments and certainly not the large suburban type with big parking lots. Small businesses and private individuals on the street rely on personal contact and expect some haggling over price. This makes most Americans uncomfortable, but isn't it more authentic? Isn't it more of a free market?
Anyone who wants to sell must have the guts to approach you and ask you to buy. In return, of course, you should give an answer, even if it is almost always, "no, gracias". There are also the businesses that can't exist in our corporate controlled environment. We saw someone selling cigarettes one at a time, not much different than the odd person buying one off someone at a bus stop at home, but certainly, the regulations are set up to prevent an individual from carrying out such as a business in a more ongoing manner in the United States.
I am sure we haven't thought about the implications of all the differences, but clearly our trip has prompted more and more thinking about economics and marketing. I think most Americans, and other relatively affluent Westerners, would benefit from embracing such travel experience rather than succumbing to fear.
Thursday, February 19, 2015
Not in Buffalo: Skip the Book and Go to the Volcano
There have been a couple of other posts about our month in Antigua, Guatemala. Here I would like to highlight our visit to an active volcano, Pacaya. When we went there was no flowing lava only gas and heat. There had been lava only about a year before, so we could see the black hardening lava and step into areas where we could feel the geothermal heat radiating from the magma still hot under the hardening top layer. You could also see clearly the way it flowed from the crater to the pool of lava. If this isn't the best way to cover volcanoes, geothermal heat, and even igneous rocks, I don't know the best way!
This seemed like our one opportunity. First off, we were near it and it was active. Secondly, this one was only a 2 kilometer hike after a 4 kilometer car ride up. I, and others with health problems, could do the hike either by hiring a horse or by hiring a private guide for the day so that we could take as many breaks as necessary to make the hike. Very little of it was treacherous, most of it was just a walk at an incline. Still, if you are out of shape or have health issues, I recommend a private guide at the very least, if not the horse. Obviously, this is more expensive, but for us it was the difference between being able to have the kids experience the volcano or not. Here are some highlights:
The best part of melting marshmallows in hot spots in the hardening lava area and making smores:
This seemed like our one opportunity. First off, we were near it and it was active. Secondly, this one was only a 2 kilometer hike after a 4 kilometer car ride up. I, and others with health problems, could do the hike either by hiring a horse or by hiring a private guide for the day so that we could take as many breaks as necessary to make the hike. Very little of it was treacherous, most of it was just a walk at an incline. Still, if you are out of shape or have health issues, I recommend a private guide at the very least, if not the horse. Obviously, this is more expensive, but for us it was the difference between being able to have the kids experience the volcano or not. Here are some highlights:
The best part of melting marshmallows in hot spots in the hardening lava area and making smores:
Thursday, February 12, 2015
Not in Buffalo: Getting Hands-on with Traditional Weaving
After our great experience last year
with my friend in a different part of Guatemala, we decided to go to
Antigua to explore more Mayan culture and, of course, some Spanish
colonial history.
For a hands-on activity, the kids wanted to take a weaving class. They took one last year, but wanted another. This one was a little different because they made a smaller item, but followed the whole process start to finish helping the teachers place the threads on the looms before they got to take over the weaving. The class was at a cool bar Tintos Y Arte . We were tempted to have beer and wine while they did the class, but we were pretty full from breakfast. Instead we watched the kids and took advantage of two hours of uninterrupted adult conversation.
The teachers were great and super patient with the kids. I will let the photos tell you the rest:
For a hands-on activity, the kids wanted to take a weaving class. They took one last year, but wanted another. This one was a little different because they made a smaller item, but followed the whole process start to finish helping the teachers place the threads on the looms before they got to take over the weaving. The class was at a cool bar Tintos Y Arte . We were tempted to have beer and wine while they did the class, but we were pretty full from breakfast. Instead we watched the kids and took advantage of two hours of uninterrupted adult conversation.
The teachers were great and super patient with the kids. I will let the photos tell you the rest:
Thursday, February 5, 2015
Not in Buffalo: I think we've covered the Mayans!
After our great experience last year with my friend in a different part of Guatemala, we decided to go to Antigua to explore more Mayan culture and, of course, some Spanish colonial history. After loads of church ruins and museums, we decided that we better hit some major Mayan ruins in case we are unable to come back to Guatemala. Most people think of Tikal. We thought about going there, but Copan is quite a significant site and closer to Antigua, not to mention being able to visit Honduras.
It was a great experience. I will post many photos at the bottom of this post because I think it speaks louder than my descriptions. First of all, there is nothing like being in a place like an Antigua for a month. To me, this is the minimum amount of time needed to pretend to live in a place and get a real feel and familiarity for it as well as see the sites slow and steady without wearing out. Secondly, it was fascinating traveling to Copan, only 5 hours away, but different. The tipicas comidas were similar sorts of foods, beans, corn tortillas, queso, avocado, but they were prepared and tasted different than their Guatemalan counterparts. Also, the weather was more humid, including an hour and a half of rain in the evening, something rarely seen in the dry season of the popular parts of Guatemala. The border crossing experience was quite interesting too. Despite the agreement between Guatemala, Honduras, El Salvador, and Nicaragua, you need to formally leave one country before entering another. This is quite different than going to Canada from Buffalo, where you don't talk to any immigration officials until you are on the other side talking to a Canadian official.
We kept telling the kids how lucky they were to see all of it firsthand rather than simply reading about Mayans in a library book, or worse, a textbook. Hopefully, they understand that most kids don't get to go to Copan or any other site. For some it is money (outside of airfare, there are cheap ways to travel central america like a backpacker, also expensive luxury accommodations with many options in between) or time, but for others it is fear. Regardless, nothing beats this most authentic way to cover the Mayans so well and to get a sense of native peoples generally.
Many things were interesting, but see for yourself:
It was a great experience. I will post many photos at the bottom of this post because I think it speaks louder than my descriptions. First of all, there is nothing like being in a place like an Antigua for a month. To me, this is the minimum amount of time needed to pretend to live in a place and get a real feel and familiarity for it as well as see the sites slow and steady without wearing out. Secondly, it was fascinating traveling to Copan, only 5 hours away, but different. The tipicas comidas were similar sorts of foods, beans, corn tortillas, queso, avocado, but they were prepared and tasted different than their Guatemalan counterparts. Also, the weather was more humid, including an hour and a half of rain in the evening, something rarely seen in the dry season of the popular parts of Guatemala. The border crossing experience was quite interesting too. Despite the agreement between Guatemala, Honduras, El Salvador, and Nicaragua, you need to formally leave one country before entering another. This is quite different than going to Canada from Buffalo, where you don't talk to any immigration officials until you are on the other side talking to a Canadian official.
We kept telling the kids how lucky they were to see all of it firsthand rather than simply reading about Mayans in a library book, or worse, a textbook. Hopefully, they understand that most kids don't get to go to Copan or any other site. For some it is money (outside of airfare, there are cheap ways to travel central america like a backpacker, also expensive luxury accommodations with many options in between) or time, but for others it is fear. Regardless, nothing beats this most authentic way to cover the Mayans so well and to get a sense of native peoples generally.
Many things were interesting, but see for yourself:
Thursday, January 22, 2015
Public Transportation Curriculum
When we are out and about late afternoon, it is difficult to fight the sinking feeling when I see the all too familiar yellow buses. A little bit of the feeling is the resource intensiveness of the super security to go a short distance versus the relatively low economic resource levels of children in our city. More of it, however, is the knowledge that those children, as well as those in the bubbles of their parents' vehicles, are missing the tremendous number of educational opportunities on the NFTA buses and metro rail. Indeed, all cities with relatively significant public transportation systems have unique systems and environments for learning.
Some of it is what you expect, geography and timing, but much more of it is character and socialization. Kids in cars have no real responsibility for their own transportation. They can't because they can't drive. Besides putting their seat belt on without being asked and not distracting mom and dad, there's nothing. Students on yellow buses can make sure to be at the stop on time and behave, but nothing else. My kids have to carry their own bus passes, get them out at the right time, not lose them, make sure they scan, pull for the stop at the right time, etc. These are not tremendously difficult things to do, but they need to do the same things adults do in order to ride. They get real responsibilities sooner.
There are many rewarding social encounters. Often, someone sees us and alerts me to a good place to take kids or some event for them nearby that I hadn't heard about. Sometimes they witness kind adults and teenagers giving up their front seats for elderly or disabled people. This is something they are starting to do. One time, my son chatted with a man who was impressed with a story he told and encouraged him to write a book.
There are also social encounters that just don't happen in other environments since there are so few other opportunities to be in close quarters with strangers. Many are great learning opportunities. We witnessed two men heckling a woman over her hat one day and the incident had many components including: how to behave in public, freedom of religious expression, the lack of correlation between religious beliefs and proper behavior sometimes, as well as the idea that sometimes even the truth need not be stated. We discussed these things the best we could given their complexity and their current ages. Another time, we met someone on the bus who clearly had a hard life and was facing several hardships. The kids kept pointing out several ways she and I were similar. When I talked to them later, I tried to make them understand that often the only difference between someone who is doing okay and someone facing hardships are a few wrong turns, some of which may be outside of their control. I hope they are learning empathy and compassion.
The more of these encounters and experiences we have, the more I believe that the decline of public transportation is one of many reasons that individualism and materialism seem to be so high in our culture. There is no longer a sense that we are all more similar than than we are different or that we are all in it together. It is easier to see others as "other" or even less than human when you don't have to get close to them. People can more easily be in bubbles: in cars driving from their homogenous town past those "other" kinds of people in those "other" neighborhoods.
Hopefully, I am countering some of this bubble culture with my kids. Only time will tell if riding around on the bus is the answer to responsibility and character building.
Some of it is what you expect, geography and timing, but much more of it is character and socialization. Kids in cars have no real responsibility for their own transportation. They can't because they can't drive. Besides putting their seat belt on without being asked and not distracting mom and dad, there's nothing. Students on yellow buses can make sure to be at the stop on time and behave, but nothing else. My kids have to carry their own bus passes, get them out at the right time, not lose them, make sure they scan, pull for the stop at the right time, etc. These are not tremendously difficult things to do, but they need to do the same things adults do in order to ride. They get real responsibilities sooner.
There are many rewarding social encounters. Often, someone sees us and alerts me to a good place to take kids or some event for them nearby that I hadn't heard about. Sometimes they witness kind adults and teenagers giving up their front seats for elderly or disabled people. This is something they are starting to do. One time, my son chatted with a man who was impressed with a story he told and encouraged him to write a book.
There are also social encounters that just don't happen in other environments since there are so few other opportunities to be in close quarters with strangers. Many are great learning opportunities. We witnessed two men heckling a woman over her hat one day and the incident had many components including: how to behave in public, freedom of religious expression, the lack of correlation between religious beliefs and proper behavior sometimes, as well as the idea that sometimes even the truth need not be stated. We discussed these things the best we could given their complexity and their current ages. Another time, we met someone on the bus who clearly had a hard life and was facing several hardships. The kids kept pointing out several ways she and I were similar. When I talked to them later, I tried to make them understand that often the only difference between someone who is doing okay and someone facing hardships are a few wrong turns, some of which may be outside of their control. I hope they are learning empathy and compassion.
The more of these encounters and experiences we have, the more I believe that the decline of public transportation is one of many reasons that individualism and materialism seem to be so high in our culture. There is no longer a sense that we are all more similar than than we are different or that we are all in it together. It is easier to see others as "other" or even less than human when you don't have to get close to them. People can more easily be in bubbles: in cars driving from their homogenous town past those "other" kinds of people in those "other" neighborhoods.
Hopefully, I am countering some of this bubble culture with my kids. Only time will tell if riding around on the bus is the answer to responsibility and character building.
Wednesday, August 27, 2014
Do you ever get tempted to send the kids to school?
I am embarrassed to say that every year (sometimes more often) I consider school for the kids. It isn't because I think they are missing something. We have been at homeschooling long enough that it is obvious that they are doing just as well academically as school kids. They experience all kinds of things that are just not available when cooped up all day. I have great answers for those that contradict me about not sending them to school. Intellectually, it is very clear that homeschooling is best, at least for us.
However, my frustration level skyrockets at times when I spend the whole day begging for them to do chores or the few traditional school items that we require. My kids are great out of the house and will do whatever is asked by instructors at activities or church or helping other parents when we visit. But at home, it seems that they don't feel compelled to do what is expected. This is, of course, a better situation than good behavior at home and poor behavior outside the home, but it is exhausting! At times, I get to the point of threatening school. I am sure many of you are mortified by such a threat, but it just seems that they often aren't grateful for the freedom. We ask ourselves if we should send them for a while so they understand? For a few weeks, months, maybe a year? Would they be grateful after? I went to good schools, but when you include transportation and homework, it was 35-40 hours a week with no control over my time.
Am I the only one who feels this way? Is this even tougher with a school-at-home style? We are unschoolers, but with the added extra structure that, once old enough, they have to write about what they do for learning. Is this better or worse across ages or styles? Is compliance just better from kids that have tried school? These are all things we think about constantly.
However, my frustration level skyrockets at times when I spend the whole day begging for them to do chores or the few traditional school items that we require. My kids are great out of the house and will do whatever is asked by instructors at activities or church or helping other parents when we visit. But at home, it seems that they don't feel compelled to do what is expected. This is, of course, a better situation than good behavior at home and poor behavior outside the home, but it is exhausting! At times, I get to the point of threatening school. I am sure many of you are mortified by such a threat, but it just seems that they often aren't grateful for the freedom. We ask ourselves if we should send them for a while so they understand? For a few weeks, months, maybe a year? Would they be grateful after? I went to good schools, but when you include transportation and homework, it was 35-40 hours a week with no control over my time.
Am I the only one who feels this way? Is this even tougher with a school-at-home style? We are unschoolers, but with the added extra structure that, once old enough, they have to write about what they do for learning. Is this better or worse across ages or styles? Is compliance just better from kids that have tried school? These are all things we think about constantly.
Thursday, April 24, 2014
Really Covering Citizenship - School Board Election Time
Tonight we attended a session with the candidates for the Buffalo Board of Education at the Merriweather branch library. First of all, for those of you not from the state of New York, yes, school board elections are in May, not in November with the other elections. It does encourage a lack of broad representation in the sense that those that make a special effort to turn out in May usually have some vested interest of some sort, for better or for worse. Anyway, there were a couple of things that struck me about the evening.
The first was that I was covering citizenship much better compared to the parents (and teachers) of school students. Out of about 30,000 students in the district, there were perhaps 10 from what I could see, presumably school kids, in the audience. Where were the students? Surely they have vested interest in what happens. I can only guess that some kids, the trouble makers who were alluded to regarding suspensions, don't care and the "good students" are too busy doing homework, going to activities, and going to bed early. Either way, it is clear to me that homeschooling, with its lack of homework, lack of suspensions and relative lack of need for a bed time permits more engagement in the political process. It is sort of a microcosm of the way the corporatocracy has kept people too busy to participate and notice that our state and national elections are bought. Between busy or disengaged students and disadvantaged parents who need to work multiple jobs to have a living wage, I am sad but not surprised. I hope I was setting an example for my kids that I tried to ascertain which candidates are good.
The second thing that struck me was that all the candidates were mainstream in the sense that they stated what you would expect. No one, even the more interesting candidates, was outraged about mandatory kindergarten, for example, which to me is a big attack on parents rights and freedoms to decide what is right for their children. There was all the "working together" and "caring about the community" rhetoric of course. It was much easier to see which candidates not to vote for. Sergio Rodriguez boldly stated how much he as for mandatory kindergarten and even mandatory Pre-K in the typical more-school-is-better approach to learning. Clearly, he has not read what I have read about child development and the ways children learn. Several candidates, including Sam Davis who most directly seemed to address it, stated that they wanted to eliminate waste and get the money into the classrooms. This shows the ignorance of the candidates. It is an extremely small percentage of what is spent that isn't directly or indirectly mandated by state education law and related applicable laws and contracts developed under those laws. It is not to say that all tax dollars are put to good use. I would certainly overhaul the entire education system, but such things would have to occur at the state level. Making a note of those who mentioned this also eliminated several possible candidates for me. I was pleasantly surprised that so many stated fairly directly that they wanted the good programs to be spread across the district to neighborhood schools rather than concentrated in a few schools in an unfair manner. Unfortunately, this didn't help differentiate the candidates too well even though Wendy Mistretta seemed to articulate this best of all that spoke on this. I agree with them on the inherent unfairness obviously, but it wasn't a differentiating factor. Only one candidate, Daniel Reynolds, spoke about child centered learning at all. He didn't state it directly, but alluded to it by wanting to teach students via their interest in hip hop. My fear is that between not explaining it well and acting somewhat strange in that he included singing and dancing during the session that he may not be taken seriously. He also seemed to be one of the more interesting ones in terms of his own education. However, despite this he was for mandatory kindergarten when I talked to him although at least was open minded enough to tell me he would do further research on his position after speaking to me.
Anyway, I haven't finalized my choices yet other than deciding who not to vote for. Whoever gets elected, however, the proof of educational improvement to me will be in how many of the students attend next year's board candidate forums because it will show whether or not the teaching methods have instilled enthusiasm and priorities.
The first was that I was covering citizenship much better compared to the parents (and teachers) of school students. Out of about 30,000 students in the district, there were perhaps 10 from what I could see, presumably school kids, in the audience. Where were the students? Surely they have vested interest in what happens. I can only guess that some kids, the trouble makers who were alluded to regarding suspensions, don't care and the "good students" are too busy doing homework, going to activities, and going to bed early. Either way, it is clear to me that homeschooling, with its lack of homework, lack of suspensions and relative lack of need for a bed time permits more engagement in the political process. It is sort of a microcosm of the way the corporatocracy has kept people too busy to participate and notice that our state and national elections are bought. Between busy or disengaged students and disadvantaged parents who need to work multiple jobs to have a living wage, I am sad but not surprised. I hope I was setting an example for my kids that I tried to ascertain which candidates are good.
The second thing that struck me was that all the candidates were mainstream in the sense that they stated what you would expect. No one, even the more interesting candidates, was outraged about mandatory kindergarten, for example, which to me is a big attack on parents rights and freedoms to decide what is right for their children. There was all the "working together" and "caring about the community" rhetoric of course. It was much easier to see which candidates not to vote for. Sergio Rodriguez boldly stated how much he as for mandatory kindergarten and even mandatory Pre-K in the typical more-school-is-better approach to learning. Clearly, he has not read what I have read about child development and the ways children learn. Several candidates, including Sam Davis who most directly seemed to address it, stated that they wanted to eliminate waste and get the money into the classrooms. This shows the ignorance of the candidates. It is an extremely small percentage of what is spent that isn't directly or indirectly mandated by state education law and related applicable laws and contracts developed under those laws. It is not to say that all tax dollars are put to good use. I would certainly overhaul the entire education system, but such things would have to occur at the state level. Making a note of those who mentioned this also eliminated several possible candidates for me. I was pleasantly surprised that so many stated fairly directly that they wanted the good programs to be spread across the district to neighborhood schools rather than concentrated in a few schools in an unfair manner. Unfortunately, this didn't help differentiate the candidates too well even though Wendy Mistretta seemed to articulate this best of all that spoke on this. I agree with them on the inherent unfairness obviously, but it wasn't a differentiating factor. Only one candidate, Daniel Reynolds, spoke about child centered learning at all. He didn't state it directly, but alluded to it by wanting to teach students via their interest in hip hop. My fear is that between not explaining it well and acting somewhat strange in that he included singing and dancing during the session that he may not be taken seriously. He also seemed to be one of the more interesting ones in terms of his own education. However, despite this he was for mandatory kindergarten when I talked to him although at least was open minded enough to tell me he would do further research on his position after speaking to me.
Anyway, I haven't finalized my choices yet other than deciding who not to vote for. Whoever gets elected, however, the proof of educational improvement to me will be in how many of the students attend next year's board candidate forums because it will show whether or not the teaching methods have instilled enthusiasm and priorities.
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